In the life of adopted Anand Kaper (46), there have always been questions about India, the country where he was born. From the age of eighteen until now, he has visited the country eighteen times. He traveled across the country to meet people, get to know the culture and ultimately to find his family. During the first session of the “Getting to grips with the search landscape” process, Anand shares his knowledge and experience with adoptees who are at the beginning of their search: “I had to do everything surrounding my search alone and I would find it very annoying if others did the same. just have to do.”
Anand is a primary school teacher and co-manager of theinterest groupAn interest group or association is an organization that represents the interests of a specific group. Interest groups in the adoption field, for example, serve adoptees from a certain country. DNA India Adoptees. He lives with his family in Apeldoorn, where he has lived almost all his life. Anand was nine months old when he was adopted from India by his Dutch motheradoptive parentsIn Dutch we use many different words for parents after distance and adoption. Everyone uses their own words for these relationships and gives their own meaning and feelings to these words. This means that two people can use the same word in a different way. INEA used a questionnaire to investigate which words we can best use. As INEA, the expertise center for intercountry adoption, we take this into account. We are aware that every word we ultimately choose can have advantages and disadvantages for everyone personally.. “Together with my wife, who is also adopted from India, I have a twelve-year-old daughter and a ten-year-old son,” he says proudly. “For me, the Netherlands feels like home thanks to them, but India now also feels like home. I remember the first time I stepped off the plane in Mumbai, the place where I was born. I felt the warmth, I smelled the scent and thought: 'home'.”
Anand was eighteen when he returned to India for the first time with his adoptive parents: “At home we had a large folder with all the documents and papers related to my adoption. I was always curious about the country I came from. During our first visit to my native country, we mainly came to get to know the country. It was a three-week trip, during which we visited the orphanage in the last five days where I was taken as a six-day-old baby. I have now been to India seventeen times. My wife has been there twice now and I would like to show it to my daughter and son too, but it is a costly undertaking.”
Follow the paper trail
“I always had a great interest in the country of India and I saw a lot during my travels. During my first travels I was not looking for my family. I went from north to south, from east to west, but always ended up in Mumbai. In 2002 my journey was different than usual. Where I normally immersed myself completely in the culture, the people and the country, this time I decided to go to the hospital where I was born on spec. I had found the name of the hospital in my 'large adoption folder'. Without any expectations, I arrived at the hospital, where I told my story to a nurse and a counselor. I was helped kindly and to my surprise there was a birth register that I was allowed to look at. Taking photos was forbidden, so I copied everything by hand. It was a very special discovery, but I decided not to do anything with it.”