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Ronald Federici's daughter speaks out

Ronald Federici's daughter speaks out
Ronald Federici's daughter has surfaced online.

Here's what she has to say about life in the Federici household.

ETA: Link is inactive after the blog maintainer received personal threats from Federici. You can still read the statements at child advocacy group PPL.org

Initial skepticism was waived when a Federici supporter (someone whom the leading members of ACT have cited good reason to believe is Federici himself waving a sockpuppet under the alias "mom4all") then vehemently turned on Federici's adopted daughter "Lanie" and revealed copious personal information about her in a highly inappropriate way.

The following are personal statements and opinions from people who know Federici independently:

From one source:

I was very aware of the situation with Mr. Federici and his “standing” in the community as well as his atttempt at gaining guardianship of his daughter. From my experience with both, it is clear to me that mom4all is actually Ron Federici writing. This is exactly the way he talks about adopted children - “damaged” - and the way he talks about his daughter - on the streets, lying etc. Many of my friends in the adoption community have seen Ron Federici and never been back - they find him frightening. His practice is all but gone. He lies about everything - used to have on his website that he was a physician, which he is not. In the guardianship hearing for his daughter the judge was horrified to learn that he had represented to multiple people that he was his daughter’s guardian - a blatant lie. Ron’s path to “helping” these children, including his own, is CONTROL, to the point of child abuse. When his daughter dared to leave home to escape his control, his response was to seek guardianship. Quite a guy and NOT the model I look to for adoptive parenting.


From another, someone who allegedly knows Federici and his practice very well:

Why does this person who supposedly has been so helped by Dr. Federici not divulge who they are? Elena is “out there” with her identity- what about you, her accuser? If you have been so helped, why won’t you proudly state who you are along with the names of all of the “professionals” you claim tried to help her? Unless of course if you are Federici. The truth is known by too many people and putting out anonymous posts is not going to work anymore. The house of cards is crumbling, thank goodness!

I have known Elena, Dr Federici’s adopted daughter very well also. I have known her for years. She has always been a very sweet and well behaved young lady. To be candid, and I sincerely apologize Elena if this is unkind for me to say in this brief a manner, she has always been somewhat regressed in her behavior. This is undoubtedly in part due to the fact that her adoptive father raised her to be entirely dependent on him. He tried very hard to ensure none of his kids would ever get out of the house and away from his control. She wouldn’t have dreamed of smoking or drinking or any of the bad behaviors she has been accused of by her adoptive father. She was extremely physically and emotionally abused by her adoptive father for years, as were her 3 adopted siblings.

I asked his son once why his dad works with children when it is obvious that he hates them so. His son said, “because who is going to believe us? He can get away with whatever he wants and no one will listen to us”. This boy is enlisted in the Marines now, and he would be better off in Iraq than back home with his adoptive father.

Of his 4 adopted children, only one remains at home. He is there because he is the only one Federici managed to get a guardianship on even though he is now almost 25 years old, can read and write and hold down a job (which he has for many years). He is not even allowed to get a drivers license even though he is perfectly capable. The others got out, thank goodness. It is well known in professional circles that the supposed other 3 kids (of the “seven”) –are not his kids. One is a Russian girl who has both mom and dad–and lives with them in Russia. He has brought her over to the US for an occasional visit. She is not his daughter. The other two young ladies are Romanian girls. They have never even been to the US. He helped find foster homes for them, and they are now both grown now and out of foster care in Romania. They are not now–nor were they ever been his children. This lie is typical of what this man does. He truly doesn’t seem to be able to discern reality.

Anyone who is even remotely considering trusting their children to this man needs to read the full disclosure on this web site
http://www.childrenintherapy.org/proponents/federici.html

What kind of professional lies about the number of children they have or the degrees they possess or what university they attended?

Elena! There is a better life out there for you! You are beautiful and precious and there is only one YOU in the entire world! The Job Corps is a great opportunity for you to find a career. I hope and pray that enough truth and strength has been instilled into you that God can continue to lead you to freedom. Your story will help and bless others as you heal and raise your child. I am so happy and proud of you for your courage! Most people will never know what it takes for you to get out of there and stand up for yourself. But most of the people on this list will support and applaud you and God will honor your desire for a healthy life for you and your beautiful daughter!

I remember when he met one of his secretary’s children for the first time when she had just had her baby. He was a beautiful healthy baby—and Dr. Federici’s very serious comment made for all to hear was, “I told you you should have had an abortion”. I assure you he wasn’t kidding. It isn’t you Elena!! It’s him—and you are rid of that—and your daughter will never have to suffer the way you have. Someday I hope you will write a book!



A second comment from this source:
Federici has openly bragged about hitting his daughter so hard with a 2 by 4 that he literally broke it on her. He has dragged her around the room by her hair (he continued this into her adulthood and she would even cut her own hair off to try to keep him from doing it), and struck her repeatedly over a period of many years. The son who is in the Marines was beaten so badly when he was 5 years old (he was adopted at age 4) that Federici and his then wife kept him home from school for 2 weeks. He thought he was getting special privileges as he was allowed to sit in the hot tub every day while at home recovering so no one would see his bruises. He too is a very sweet and well behaved boy.

As horrific as this is, the emotional abuse was probably much worse. He would tell one of his Romanian boys that he was just like his father and that he would end up in prison, until the boy would scream and cry and beg for Federici to stop, but that just egged him on.

His first wife finally had enough and left. It didn’t take his second wife as long to figure things out and leave him as well. The “oldest friend of the family” is his office manager, Kathleen who he references in his post. She is no longer on his website as his employee (as she has been for 20 years)–so maybe she finally had enough too. Anyone who spends any time around Federici figures it out, but then they have to go through witness protection to get away!

He brags about breaking peoples knees with a baseball bat, dousing a man with gasoline and lighting a match to threaten him to do his bidding, and hanging a man out of the window by his ankles to threaten him into acquiescing to Federici’s request.

He has a slew of attorneys whom he regularly uses as attack dogs–suing so many people repeatedly until they are beaten down and broke. Hopefully this answers the question of why he still has his license. People are justifiably terrified of him.

Lanie honey, there were witnesses to what he did to you. There were 2 moms, family and friends. This mom4all person is definitely him as you likely have figured out. Don’t engage him. The truth is known by many and most importantly by God. You should continue to share with this list as you need to and with people who can help you heal. Just don’t feel that you have to respond to his ridiculous allegations.



Finally, one statement from Lanie:

In our home it felt like we were in battle all the time. My dad has this special thing that he does all the time. Its called divide and conquer. He would divide my brothers and me so that we would be weak and he would be able to control us that way. He would make us fight against ourselves so that we wouldnt get together and fight together. We would tell on each other so that we wouldnt be in the spotlight One day we told my dad that my older brother (the one that has hemophilia) wanted to kill himself. My dad took my brother and beat the living daylights out of him! I couldnt believe it! How could someone do that to another person? The last time that he tried to control me and hold me down I bit him. I was trying to leave the house and he wouldnt let me. He was going to put a choke hold on me and I wouldnt let that happen. So I bit him to let me go. When he took me to court he made up a lie saying that I was trying to leave and he wanted to talk to me and I attacked him! Whenever I tried to get close to him he would act all nice until later on he uses the things that I tell him against me! He would add on to the things that I would tell him making me feel stupid for even trying to trust him. I realized that you can Never trust this man or even try to.

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Changing a Life, Changing a Community - Connecting a Church with an Orphanage in Ethiopia

Sunday, February 22, 2009 at 8:42PM

Bappi verjaardag » Reisverhalen » antoni-in-bangl…

Bappi verjaardag

18 feb. 2009 ???????? vanuit Bangladesh 1.134 keer bekeken

Hoera ineens gratis internet

op de luchthaven van Dhaka, maar ik moet wel snel zijn want na plm 5 minuten stop de PC weer

gisteravond de verjaardag gevierd van de kok en één van de bewonders van Asha Nir.

Das "SterniPark" -Imperium

Das "SterniPark" -Imperium

SANDRA SCHÄFER

Kein anderer Kita-Betreiber hat in den vergangenen zwei Jahren durch Immobilienkäufe so viel von sich reden gemacht wie "SterniPark". Der Träger erwarb vier Stadtvillen in bester Lage, an der Reventlowstraße, Wrangelstraße und Rothenbaumchaussee. Die Investitionskosten werden auf vier Millionen Euro geschätzt. Und immer gab es Auseinandersetzungen mit Nachbarn, die die Kita verhindern wollten. Doch warum kauft "SterniPark" teure Immobilien? Und warum stößt "SterniPark" oft auf Proteste? Eine Analyse:

Warum hat "SterniPark" immer Ärger mit den Nachbarn? ",SterniPark` will immer mit dem Kopf durch die Wand", sagen Kritiker aus der Kita-Szene. Sie werfen dem Träger vor, er prüfe vor dem Kauf einer Immobilie viel zu wenig, ob sie sich für eine Kita eigne und sich in die Nachbarschaft einfüge. Andere Träger sehen eher vom Kauf einer Immobilie ab, wenn sich Probleme abzeichnen.

Warum kauft fast nur "SterniPark" neue Immobilien? "SterniPark" will expandieren und setzt dabei auf Immobilienkäufe. Der stadteigene Kita-Träger "Vereinigung" (170 Kitas) schafft ebenfalls neue Kita-Plätze, setzt dabei aber auf Erweiterung bestehender Kitas. So wurde etwa die Vereinigungs-Kita an der Wrangelstraße aufgestockt und hat nun 220 Plätze. Erweiterungen bergen weniger Konfliktpotenzial. Allerdings hat SterniPark kaum Möglichkeiten zu erweitern.

Adoption from Kazakhstan to the Netherlands

 

February 15, 2009
Adoption from Kazakhstan to the Netherlands

Category: Column, Conveniently travel - Lammert @ 11:10
The last time I receive many requests for information or to Dutch assistance in adopting children from Kazakhstan to the Netherlands. I think this discussion of the forum, Kazakhstan has contributed. This is me by name as someone who would have good information to help.
I always leave these questions unanswered.

International adoption is one of the most significant actions that can be done in the life of a young child. A child is thereby permanently out of sight and the culture of his biological parents met. This process is not reversible. Television shows like Vanished show that this process is unfortunately a part of the children in permanent damage.
 
In order to provide sufficient safeguards to the child for adoption Netherlands regulated by treaties between countries, and through adoption of professional organizations. Between the Netherlands and Kazakhstan are not tolerated where adoption is regulated, nor are organizations with experience in the Netherlands adoption of adoption from Kazakhstan. In Belgium the situation is different and adoption from Kazakhstan is a relatively normal phenomenon.

Adoption scandal has prompted only minor changes

 http://www.sltrib.com/ci_11700836
 
 
Adoption scandal has prompted only minor changes
Focus on Children » Defendants in the case likely to get probation.
By Pamela Manson
The Salt Lake Tribune

Salt Lake Tribune
Posted:02/14/2009 06:00:00 AM MST

A federal indictment accusing a Wellsville agency and its workers of tricking parents in Samoa into giving up their children marked a rare prosecution in the international adoption industry.
But the use of trickery, coercion or kidnapping in foreign countries to place children with American families is far from unusual, according to advocates with watchdog groups who say the Focus on Children case bolsters their calls for reform.
"There's no real consequences now," David Smolin, a law professor in Alabama and the parent of an internationally adopted child, said of agencies and adoption facilitators accused of wrongdoing.
To stem abuses, Smolin and others are pushing for national adoption laws to replace a patchwork of state laws; limiting the amount of money involved in the adoption of foreign children to prevent human trafficking; and making U.S. agencies responsible for the actions of their overseas contractors. They also want more prosecutions and harsher punishment for offenders.
Kimberly Kennedy, a board member of Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform (PEAR), is urging U.S. District Judge David Sam to impose significant sentences when defendants in the FOC case are sentenced later this month. Under plea deals, the U.S. Attorney's Office is recommending probation.
"What this agency did in Samoa will have long lasting effects for families and children," Kennedy, the California parent of internationally adopted children, wrote to the judge.
A 2007 federal indictment accused the defendants of coercing and tricking parents in Samoa into placing their children for adoption, then falsely claiming that the children were orphans. Five defendants have pleaded guilty to misdemeanor counts.
Barbara McArtney, an attorney in Grand Island, N.Y., who runs an accredited adoption agency and serves on PEAR's board, said prosecutions of U.S. adoption agencies are rare.
One of the few prosecutions similar to FOC's was the case of Lauryn Galindo, who was accused of falsifying immigration documents to make it appear that Cambodian children placed for adoption through her agency were abandoned.
In fact, prosecutors alleged, some of the children were bought from their parents for small amounts of money and Galindo, in turn, charged adoptive parents in the United States large fees. She pleaded guilty to several charges, including visa fraud and money laundering, and was sentenced in 2004 to 18 months in prison.
Many nations, including the United States, have signed on to the Hague Convention on International Adoptions, an agreement among the participants to follow certain procedures. However, enforcement can be difficult and some countries, such as Samoa, are not parties to the agreement.
"No one is watching on a federal level," said Joni Fixel, a Michigan lawyer who has represented prospective adoptive parents in lawsuits against adoption agencies. "We need another department in the Department of Homeland Security to make sure these types of cases don't happen. We don't want to become a haven for children being illegally adopted."
In addition, American adoption agencies are regulated by states. PEAR board member David Kruchkow said if a problem arises with an international adoption, states generally say they have no authority over the case.
That, in turn, leads to federal prosecutions for misdemeanor visa violations, said Kruchkow, a Florida high-school science teacher.
Kruchkow said he and his wife were victimized when they adopted a little girl from Mexico, a Hague Convention country, in the late 1990s. They later learned that a Mexican lawyer and two consultants in New York, where the Kruchkows lived at the time, had forged their daughter's paperwork.
Both McArtney and Smolin believe capping fees connected to adoptions could curb many problems. The amount paid to facilitators and lawyers overseas for identifying children for adoption and completing their country's paperwork can be multiple times the average annual income of the country, according to Smolin, who teaches at Samford University in Birmingham, Ala., and has written extensively about international adoption.
Smolin also proposes making American agencies legally responsible for the actions of their foreign partners, saying many U.S. placement agencies have a "see-no-evil, hear-no-evil" attitude toward how adoptees are obtained overseas.
Federal prosecutors charged two Samoan citizens who helped Focus on Children locate children for adoption -- Tagaloa Ieti and Julie Tuiletufuga -- but the government has so far been unable to extradite them.
The criminal case against FOC doesn't address the status of the Samoan children who were placed for adoption. However, Tom DiFilipo, president and CEO of the Joint Council on International Children's Services, an association of adoption and child advocacy groups in Alexandria, Va., said because the children are U.S. citizens, it is very unlikely they would be sent back to Samoa.
But they may be back in contact with their birth families. The plea agreements require the defendants to pay into a fund to facilitate communication between both sets of parents.
Smolin likes the idea. He and his wife, Desiree, adopted two adolescent girls from India whose birth mother, they later learned, had been told her children would be temporarily placed in a boarding school.
The couple were able to eventually track down the mother and take the girls to visit her. But keeping the girls in touch with their mother has been costly, Smolin said.
"If they get the (FOC) trust fund together, the children ought to go back a few weeks every year," he said.
pmanson@...
Lisa Rosetta contributed to this article.
The Focus on Children case
Five agency operators and employees will be sentenced on Feb. 19 and 25 for misdemeanor offenses involving the adoptions of Samoan children.
In January, Focus on Children principals Karen and Scott Banks; Dan Wakefield, who located Samoan children for adoption; and caseworkers Coleen Bartlett and Karalee Thornock pleaded guilty to counts of aiding and abetting the improper entry of an alien for putting false information on immigration forms.
Their plea agreements have a recommendation for probation, but U.S. District Judge David Sam could impose up to six months on each count and a $5,000 fine.
Focus on Children, which arranged adoptions of children from a number of foreign countries, ceased business in Utah in the summer 2007.
The prosecution halted all international adoptions in Samoa. Earlier this month, Attorney General Ming C. Leung Wai said overseas adoptions are allowed only if the application certifies the child does not have a family or suitable person to provide care and no other suitable arrangements can be made in Samoa.

Handel in kinderen keihard aanpakken

13 februari 2009 - Handel in kinderen keihard aanpakken

CDA-kamerlid Marleen de Pater is bezorgd over het gemak waarmee een kind via internet kan worden gekocht. Ze heeft minister Hirsch Ballin (Justitie, CDA) gevraagd de wetgeving aan te scherpen. Volgens De Pater zijn er te weinig juridische instrumenten om het kopen van een baby via internet tegen te gaan. In de Tweede Kamer werd over dit onderwerp gedebatteerd naar aanleiding van de ophef, drie maanden geleden, rond de aankoop van een baby uit België door een Nederlands echtpaar. Een Gents paar van 22 en 24 jaar wilde om financiële redenen het tweede kind afstaan. Via internet vonden ze een Nederlands echtpaar dat de baby in juli direct na de geboorte kwam ophalen. Het kind werd bij de burgerlijke stand ingeschreven onder de naam van de nieuwe Nederlandse vader.

‘Ik respecteer het als ouders een kinderwens hebben. Maar het kopen van een kind mogen we onder geen beding toestaan. Een kind is geen koopwaar’, aldus De Pater. De handel in baby’s moet dan ook keihard worden aangepakt. ‘Je ontneemt een kind zijn identiteit en ieder mens heeft het recht om te weten waar hij vandaan komt.’ De Pater wil dat illegale opneming van kinderen in een gezin kan worden aangeduid als ‘kinderhandel’. Volgens het Wetboek van Strafrecht is hiervan pas sprake als uitbuiting aan de orde is. Het CDA heeft ervoor gepleit om aan het wetsartikel toe te voegen dat het niet in alle gevallen om uitbuiting hoeft te gaan.

Geschreven door: frans
Geplaatst op: 16-2-2009
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'Sorry, I can't disclose the identity of Haynes's mum'

'Sorry, I can't disclose the identity of Haynes's mum'

9/2/2009
Mayura Janwalkar / DNA

Mumbai: Twenty-one years after 85-year-old Clarice D’souza gave away Jennifer Haynes, 28, in adoption to US national George Hancox, she filed an affidavit in the Bombay high court, stating that she could not disclose the identity of her biological mother.

Haynes was deported to India owing to incomplete adoption formalities at the time of her adoption in 1989.

Haynes, who was separated from her American husband and two children — aged six and five — as a result of her abrupt deportation, had alleged various malpractices under the guise of foreign adoptions and sought action against the Americans for International Aid and Adoption that processed her adoption.

Refuting allegations made by Haynes, D’souza, a trustee of the now defunct Kuanyin Charitable Trust from where Haynes was adopted, has stated that many children are adopted by US nationals and they settle and adapt well.

D’souza has stated that Haynes allegations are baseless and her petition in court is not maintainable, as she has not exhausted the remedies available to her.

An exasperated Haynes said: “More than anything else, I want to go back to my children. But now that I am here in India I want to know something about myself, my family, my mother. I don’t want to go back to the US empty-handed.”

But D’souza’s affidavit suggests she will have to remain clueless about her parents. The 85-year-old said that revealing her mother’s identity would be a breach of confidentiality her mother was promised at the time of surrendering her child. She also states that it is now over 20 years since the documents were submitted to the court and she does not have them anymore. Haynes’s advocate Pradeep Havnur has sought two weeks time from the court to file a reply.