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Sheri Shenker

 
 
 
     
 
       
 
     
"Every child has a right to grow up in a loving family unit. No institution, no matter how well managed, can match the feeling of belonging, that a family can provide."
 
 
 

Sheri is an Adoption Accredited Social Worker in Private Practice (SAASWIPP) with over 18 years experience in the adoption field. She has experience in local and international adoptions and was the founder and director of an NGO specialising in adoption and the care of HIV orphans. She was an executive committee member of SAASWIPP (1997-1999) and Chairlady of SAASWIPP Gauteng (1999-2000). Sheri has been privileged to facilitate hundreds of successful adoption placements throughout her career, both in South Africa, and Internationally. She provides counselling to women who are pregnant and looking at adoption as an option for their child, as well as screening and counselling prospective adoptive parents. She lives in Johannesburg with her teenage son.


 
 

Questions & Answers

 
 
 
Q: We are a young married couple who have been through 5 years of unsuccessful infertility treatment, and are now looking at adopting a new born Caucasian baby. Can you help us?
 
Q: We are looking at adopting a child and would like to know who we could contact to start this process?
 
Q: We have recently adopted a new born baby boy, and want to know the best time to start telling our son that he is adopted.
 
Q: I am looking at adopting a child but have heard some very scary stories of birth parents taking their child back after the child has been placed with the adoptive parent. Can this really happen?
 
Q: We are looking at the possibility of adopting an abandoned baby from one of the orphanages in our area, but are very scared of adopting an HIV positive child as we could not bear losing the child to AIDS after the adoption. How do we make sure we are adopting a healthy child?
 
Q: Hi Sheri. I hope that you would be able to assist. My daughter is 4 years old. Her father has never been there for her and the last time he saw her was when she was 6 weeks old. His details is also not recorded on her birth certificate. I have married a great man when my daughter was 3 years old and we also have another baby together. My husband would now like to legally adopt my daughter. How should we go about it? I’ve got no idea where her real dad is, but the last time I heard, he was in Iran / Iraq. Also, my daughter has started calling my husband daddy not long after we got married and now can’t remember that he hasn’t always been there! During my pregnancy with my baby, she always used to asked whether daddy would feel her kick in my tummy as well etc. I don’t know how to respond to these questions and when I should tell her the truth as I don’t want her to feel that her baby sister is more imortant. Please help.
THX
 
Q: I have 2 adopted children, My daughter is 4 and son 1. I have told her from young about her tummy mummy and that she is adopted. Lately I find she asks alot of questions - and I don’t mind and try to tell her the truth as much as possible. I am a bit anxious though as I don’t know anyone else with adopted kids and how exactly to go about answering and what to expect.
 
Q: Hi there Sheri

My husband and I have been battling for 4 years to become parents after many failed fertility attempts. We have finally found a wonderful women who is, hopefully, going to bless us by putting her baby up for adoption to us once he or she is born. My question is, where do we go from here, do we go to a lawyer? or is there a more cost effective way of handling all the paperwork. (we currently reside in Knysna)
Thank you for all your help!
 
Q: Hi Sheri

My daughter is almost 2 now. Myself and her Biological father split when she was a year old and he has hardly seen her since. He does not pay maintance for her at all and quite frankly I dont want it. He moves around all over the country and I will not let him be a father to her when it suits him. I have met a new man now and we are getting married in October, my new husband now really would like to Legally adopt my daughter? What is the procedure that I would need to follow to get the ball going? I am not sure if her real father would give consent for that just to be spitefull to me. What do you suggest?
 
 

Certifying international adoption agencies

 
http://www.adoption.gouv.qc.ca/site/en_organismes_agrees_agrements.phtml


Certifications

The Minister of Health and Social Services is responsible for certifying international adoption agencies. Certification is issued for one country at a time and may include conditions or restrictions. Valid for an initial period of two years, it may be renewed for a period of three years or less, if circumstances warrant.

Certifications Issued by the Health and Social Services Minister

Adoption internationale inc.
Ukraine (2006 04 01 to 2009 03 31)

L'Agence d'adoption africaine "Child of Mine"
Ghana (2008 04 23 to 2010 04 24)

Agence d'adoption les enfants du Mandé
Mali (2009 01 10 to 2012 01 11)
Niger (2007 09 11 to 2009 09 12)

Alliance des familles du Québec
Kazakhstan (2008 01 01 to 2011 01 02)
Kyrgyz Republic (2007 11 21 to 2009 11 22)

Appel inc.
Colombia (2007 08 15 to 2009 08 16)

Corporation accueillons un enfant
Haiti (2009 03 31 to 2012 04 01)

Enfants d'Orient, adoption et parrainage du Québec inc.
South Korea (2007 06 14 to 2009 06 15)
Taiwan (2007 05 15 to 2009 05 16)
Thailand (2007 05 30 to 2009 05 31)

Enfants du monde
China (2007 05 30 to 2009 05 31)
Vietnam (2008 09 17 to 2010 09 18)

Société d'adoption internationale un enfant heureux inc.
Ukraine (2007 12 28 to 2009 06 29)

Société d'adoption parents sans frontières
China (2007 06 21 to 2009 06 22)

Société d'adoption québécoise une grande famille
Russia (2006 07 29 to 2009 07 28)

Société formons une famille inc.
Cambodgia (2007 07 28 to 2010 07 29)
China (2007 06 11 to 2009 06 12)
Ethiopia (2008 02 22 to 2010 02 23)
Peru (2005 04 01 to 2008 04 01)
Philippines (2006 10 25 to 2009 10 24)
Vietnam (2008 10 02 to 2011 10 03)

Soleil des nations
Colombia (2007 06 07 to 2009 06 08)
Haiti (2007 06 07 to 2009 06 08)

TDH pour les enfants inc.
Honduras (2007 07 27 to 2009 07 28)
Moldavia (2006 09 20 to 2009 09 21)
Russia (2006 09 20 to 2009 09 21)
Ukraine (2007 03 31 to 2010 02 28)
Vietnam (2006 12 14 to 2009 12 23)

Curriculum vitae Kees Waaldijk

Curriculum vitae Kees Waaldijk
Full name: Cornelis Waaldijk
Born: 25 November 1958
Nationality: Dutch
Senior Lecturer and Head of PhD Studies
E.M. Meijers Institute of Legal Studies, Faculty of Law, Universiteit Leiden,
PO Box 9520, 2300 RA LEIDEN, The Netherlands
E-mail c.waaldijk@law.leidenuniv.nl
Telephone +31 (0) 71 527 5206 / 5200
Fax +31 (0) 71 527 5221
Home page www.emmeijers.nl/waaldijk
Education
Ph.D., Rijksuniversiteit Limburg (now University of Maastricht), thesis defended on 10 November 1994 (Motiveringsplichten van de wetgever - The Legislature’s Duties to Give Reasons, published by Vermande in Lelystad; full text including Summary in English and Résumé en français available at http://oal.leidenuniv.nl/index.php3?m=16&c=86).
Master Degree in Dutch Law (cum laude), Faculty of Law, Erasmus University Rotterdam, 1977-1982.
Professional experience
From 2000, E.M. Meijers Institute of Legal Studies, Faculty of Law, Universiteit Leiden: senior lecturer and head of PhD studies. Tasks include: running the training programme for around 70 PhD candidates, coaching them and their supervisors, providing training in research methods, and developing Faculty policy with respect to PhD candidates; and - as research fellow in the Institute’s research programme Securing the rule of law in a world of multilevel jurisdiction (sub-programme Fundamental rights in an integrating Europe) - doing research on sexual orientation and the law.
From 2001, Centre for research and comparative legal studies on sexual orientation and gender identity (CERSGOSIG): member of the scientific committee (see www.cersgosig.informagay.it).
2006, member of the supervisory committee of the government-funded evaluation research of the Dutch legislation on the introduction of registered partnership and the opening up of marriage, carried out at the Universiteit Utrecht.
2002-2004, coordinator, and member for the Netherlands, of the European Group of Experts on Combating Sexual Orientation Discrimination, conducting a comparative study (at the request of and funded by the Commission of the European Communities) on the implementation of the Employment Equality Directive with respect to the ground of sexual orientation (see www.emmeijers.nl/experts).
1999-2007, co-editor of the annual collection and commentary of opinions of the Dutch Equal Treatment Commission.
1996-2000, Faculty of Law, Universiteit Leiden: lecturer of Jurisprudence (until 2000; courses taught: Introduction to Law, Legal Methods, Family Law; also setting up and managing the Faculty’s new Evening Programme in Law at the University’s Campus in The Hague).
2000, Hastings College of the Law, University of California, San Francisco: visiting professor, teaching ‘Human Rights Law in Europe - as applied to family, immigration and sexual orientation’ (Leiden-Hastings exchange programme).
1998-1999, consultant to the government-funded evaluation research of the Dutch equal treatment legislation carried out at the University of Nijmegen.
1994-1999, member of the Dutch Council for Family Affairs.
1994-1998, Netherlands Institute of Human Rights (SIM), University of Utrecht: part-time researcher (focussing on free movement of same-sex partners).
1996-1997, member of the Dutch Government’s Commission of legal experts advising on the opening up of civil marriage to same-sex couples.
1982-1995, Faculty of Law, University of Maastricht: lecturer of public law (courses taught, research done and publications made in the following fields: Constitutional Law, Legal Methods, Legislative Drafting, Homosexuality & Law).
1987-1994, Department of Gay and Lesbian Studies, University of Utrecht: part-time researcher and lecturer. Tasks included the management and supervision of several research projects on sexual orientation discrimination in the Netherlands and in Europe.
1989, Department of Law, University of Lancaster, England: visiting lecturer, teaching British Constitutional Law (ERASMUS staff exchange).
1989, Europa Institute, Faculty of Law, University of Edinburgh, Scotland: senior visiting research fellow (Leverhulme grant).
Selection of books published
(with Matteo Bonini-Baraldi) Sexual orientation discrimination in the European Union: national laws and the Employment Equality Directive, The Hague: T.M.C. Asser Press 2006.
Motiveringsplichten van de wetgever [The Legislature’s duties to give reasons], PhD University of Maastricht, Lelystad: Vermande 1994.
(with Andrew Clapham, eds.) Homosexuality: a European Community Issue - Essays on Lesbian and Gay Rights in European Law and Policy, Dordrecht/Boston/London: Martinus Nijhoff 1993.
For a complete list of publications, see www.emmeijers.nl/waaldijk.
Languages
Dutch: mother tongue
English: excellent reading, writing and speaking skills
French: good reading skills, reasonable speaking skills, moderate writing skills
German: reasonable reading skills, moderate speaking skills
Miscellaneous
From 1999, maintaining own website with information about law & sexual orientation (www.emmeijers.nl/waaldijk).
From 1979, formal and informal ‘law & sexual orientation’ adviser to numerous individuals, organisations, lawyers and politicians, playing an active role in several test cases and legislative lobbies.
 

The Baby Houses and Orphanages of Kazakhstan

The Baby Houses and Orphanages of Kazakhstan

By Cindy Harding
Executive Director, World Partners Adoption, Inc.
www.worldpartnersadoption.org

Kazakhstan has an excellent reputation of caring for their children who live in their orphanage system. Often when the children leave the orphanage or baby house through adoption, there are many bittersweet tears from the staff and caregivers, since they love these children so dearly and will miss them- yet they only want them to have a happy life. When post placement reports are sent back and pictures of the children are given to the baby house, the caregivers remember each of the children by name and are delighted to see them thriving in their new homes. Many US doctors have commented on the good care of the children upon their arrival home, and one is even quoted as saying, "We aren't sure what Kazakhstan does right, or what other countries do wrong." They are amazed at how well the children look upon arrival home after being adopted, saying these children do not look like typical children who have lived in an orphanage setting.

There are multiple reasons that children are living in these institutionalized settings, called Baby houses in Kazakhstan, such as relinquishment or termination of parental rights, abandonment, death of birth parents, economic strife, unwed birth mothers, as well as a number of other reasons. When children are abandoned, either at birth or later, the custodianship and guardianship bodies of the local Departments of Education try to locate the child's birth parents, but often time the birth mother has left false information, making it impossible to locate her. In some regions, Hospital officials will go to the address that the birth mother gave at the time of admission, but often they are unsuccessful in finding the birth mother or any other family members. In the case of abandonment, the Akim, Hospital or Department of Health (Depending on the region) will write up an abandonment act which will allows the child to be placed into the Baby House. If a child is considered to be a "foundling" meaning literally "found" outside of the police station, hospital, park, etc. with no identifying information, the Ministry of Internal Affairs (the Militia) will try to find the birth parents or some family member who can be responsible for the child. If they are unsuccessful in their attempts to find a family member, the child is placed for adoption. The children must be on the local registry for 3 months and then on the national registry for 3 more months before they can be adopted internationally. The youngest child to be adopted from Kazakhstan will be at least 6 months old. Not all of the children living in the orphanages are cleared for adoption because parents have written a letter or family comes to visit them from time to time.

All orphans from birth up to 3-4 years old are placed into the Baby Houses regardless of whether they were born in a maternity hospital, the children's hospitals, sent from the hospital or Center for "foundlings" which is regulated by the Ministry of Internal affairs, or directly from their homes where the parental rights have been terminated or relinquished. Once the children are 4 years old, they are moved to a Preschool Orphanage for children age 4-7. The children age 7-16 live in an Orphanage, which is sometimes called a Children's Home. The Baby Houses typically house 60-130 children at a time depending on the budget provided by the Department of Health. Some orphanages in the larger cities can have as many as 400 children residing.

The Baby Houses are unique due to their staff and daily routines with the children. The baby houses are staffed with doctors and nurses and specialists such as speech therapists, physical therapists, neurologists, massage therapists, music teachers, and nannies. It is similar to a residential medical facility. The children have three full meals per day along with 3 snacks per day. Infants, of course, are on their own feeding schedule. The children are divided into groups according to their ages. There are typically 8-12 children per group depending on their age and there is one primary caregiver per group and 2 nannies to care for them at all time. Each child is assigned a primary caregiver so the child is able to establish a bond with someone in the important early stages of brain development and attachment. The daily routine of the children, while a very strict schedule, allows them to engage in playtime with their friends, attend music lessons twice per week, learn dances and poems, and work with a speech therapist every day for up to 30 minutes! Children under one year of age work with a massage therapist and physical therapist routinely to
aid them in developing gross motor skills and muscle development. This interaction with these specialists provides stimulation, which allows them to learn musical patterns, sing memorized songs, enhance gross and fine motor skills, improve receptive and expressive language, and have interaction that will help them with their cognitive and emotional development. Around the holidays or special occasions the children wear costumes and will put on performances to a variety of audiences!

The Preschool Orphanages are much like the baby house in terms of staff, but there are more teachers because the children have a school like setting where they learn academic skills. There are many different activities that include things like arts and crafts, physical play, dance lessons, music lessons, and many other activities to keep the children engaged and well rounded. The children age 7-16 live in orphanages, or Children's Home. The children attend school starting at the age of 7. Up to Middle School, they have their own special school within their setting and do not attend regular school. For the few children who attend High School, they attend the local High School in the city where they live. In the orphanages, in addition to their school, the children also attend music lessons and dance, participate in competitions, participate in sports, and go on field trips.

The Baby Houses and Orphanages are often very stark in the outside appearance, however the inside walls are typically covered with colorful murals of animals and characters which creates a child friendly environment. The baby houses and orphanages are very clean and free of debris, and toys are neatly stored on shelves. The building is usually a two-story facility that has a full kitchen, laundry room, play rooms, therapy rooms, and bedrooms where the children are grouped by age. Several children sleep in the same room in separate beds, which are lined up in rows. The outside often has a playground and a covered area that seats many children for outside play. Often times the playground and outside equipment is in need of updating and repair, however, the orphanage budget does not have the money to replace or repair the equipment, so they do the best with what they have.

The workers are very protective of the children's health, as an illness can quickly spread creating an epidemic throughout the entire house. The children are sent to the hospital for fevers and other illness we might consider to be minor because the caregivers are trying to keep all of the children free from getting sick. The workers are also very careful with the people that come into contact with the children and enter the baby house so they can limit the exposure to germs to the children.

Kazakhstan's first lady Sara Alpysovna Nazarbaeva is the President of "Bobek" Children's Foundation, established in 1992, and is the winner of The International I. Dogramachi World Health Organization Prize and The International Unity Prize. She has dedicated her life to underprivileged children, and has taken upon herself the responsibility for thousands of orphaned and handicapped children. She has created this foundation to help mother and child care, provide supervision of foundling homes and orphanages, provide equipment and supplies to schools, aid gifted children from low-income families, and assist to the child health care system. In 1997 she launched the first National Children's Rehabilitation Center and the "SOS Children's Villages of Kazakhstan" which are the family villages for orphans. Mrs. Nazarbaeva plans on building these children's villages so the orphaned children can live in a family setting. These children's villages consist of several houses build together in a group where many children live in one house with several caretakers. Mrs. Nazarbaeva understands the need for the family, and her plans for the children's villages will enable the orphaned children to grow up in a family atmosphere.

With this type of dedication to the children, stemming all the way from the top of the political structure, it is no doubt the children are so well cared for in Kazakhstan. This is a country that deeply loves it's children and wants what is best for them. It is with great honor that adoption agencies are able to work in this beautiful, kind, and compassionate country. We support them by assisting in providing loving homes and care for these precious orphaned children of Kazakhstan who are so loved by their country.
 

 

Russian Orphans Arrive

By TUQUYEN MACH

Reporter

Published: July 15, 2009

Ten Russian orphans are in Hilton Head on the adventure of a lifetime. At the end of the trip some of them will get to come back to the U.S. permanently, because some of the children’s host families intend to adopt them.

The State Department says Americans completed more than 17,000 international adoptions in fiscal year 2008. Guatemala topped the list with more than 4,100 children adopted from that country. China was second and Russia third in adoptions to the U.S.

Vietnamese Woman Used as Surrogate Wins Competition

Vietnamese Woman Used as Surrogate Wins Competition

By Park Si-soo

Staff Reporter

A court ruled Thursday that a Korean man must pay compensation to a Vietnamese woman that he married in order to have children he and his Korean first wife could raise. The woman had two babies that were both given to the first wife in a case that provoked major controversy over her use as a surrogate mother without her consent.

The Seoul Central District Court ordered the 53-year-old man to pay 25 million won ($19,700) in compensation to the 26-year-old Vietnamese woman, who divorced the man soon after the second baby was given to his first wife in 2005.

it's about Kerry Hasenbalg

Kerry Hasenbalg
Former Executive Director 
Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute

For more than a decade, Kerry Hasenbalg has worked on behalf of abused, neglected and vulnerable children.Kerry is co-founder and former Executive Director of the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI),which serves as an informational and educational source to members of the United States Congress concerning adoption and the needs of orphans and foster children.

Well known in the child welfare community as a gifted speaker and teacher, Kerry has spoken on social welfare topics at such notable locations as C-Span live, Capitol Hill, JCICS, NCFA, National Council for Faith-Based Youth, Moody Broadcasting, Family Life, Focus on the Family, and in churches around the nation. She has traveled to over 30 countries and met with many presidents, prime ministers, and various leaders of government regarding the welfare of orphans, including nations such as China, India, Russia, Romania, Guatemala, and Uganda.

Mrs. Hasenbalg is married to Scott Hasenbalg, the Executive Director of Shaohannah's Hope. Kerry invests her time supporting Scott and the Shaohannah's Hope team on a volunteer basis while writing and speaking on occasion, but most importantly, being a mother to their two children.

A newer version of the retailer and / or pederast is the

 

A newer version of the retailer and / or pederast is the
Adoption of children. So white plain of cases in which more than German
Marriage Agencies Latin Americans looking through a catalog with a child, she
married, adopted children and later started the sexually
. mistreat In a case against a member of a respected
Cologne family identified. A Berlin social worker familiar with the case of a
Man who had adopted a Vietnamese boy to him, then for
Porn movies exploit.
 
http://www.childtrafficking.com/Docs/tdh_2001_handel_mit_kindern.pdf

 

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Eine neuere Variante der Händler und/oder Päderasten ist dabei die
Adoption der Kinder. So weiß Zartbitter von Fällen, in denen Deutsche über
Heiratsagenturen per Katalog Lateinamerikanerinnen mit Kind suchten, sie
heirateten, die Kinder adoptierten und später begannen, diese sexuell zu
misshandeln. In einem Fall wird gegen das Mitglied einer angesehenen
Kölner Familie ermittelt. Eine Berliner Sozialarbeiterin kennt den Fall eines
Mannes, der einen vietnamesischen Jungen adoptiert hatte, um ihn dann für
Pornofilme auszubeuten.
 
http://www.childtrafficking.com/Docs/tdh_2001_handel_mit_kindern.pdf