In many regions of Uganda, Kugatta means ‘bringing together’. If you are new to this website and our work, a big part of what we do is to help bring together families that have been separated by intercountry adoption. One of the main reasons I started this organization was because of my own experience with intercountry adoption. Our family adopted from Uganda only to realize a year and a half later that “our” daughter had been unlawfully separated from her loving family in order to fulfil our application to adopt. That experience propelled me to dig deeper and ensure this wasn’t happening to other Ugandan families. Those investigations and research proved that our experience was in fact the norm and not the exception. Kugatta has met one Ugandan family after another, all with similar stories. Families who were seeking temporary help are only offered help through intercountry adoption. These families do not fully understanding adoption to mean anything more than “help” or “sponsorship” and they unknowingly signed away their parental rights.
A statistic that really stands out for me is that 4 out of 5 children in orphanages in countries like Uganda HAVE FAMILIES. Usually the first question I get after sharing that statistic is, “Why are families placing their children in orphanages if they want to parent them?” Well, in countries like Uganda where the government infrastructure is developing and there is little to no welfare system in place, families often look to local orphanages when they have fallen on hard times. Just like we in America look to social services for help when we are going through difficult times, orphanages promise to provide three meals a day, access to education, medical treatments, and to amenities like electricity and programs to receive school supplies and other such much needed items. The most influential reason for placing a child in an orphanage is the promise of a good education. Education in Uganda is very costly, and there is no free primary education. Just like most parents, we all want the best education for our children. So in essence most of these parents are doing what they believe is best for their children. Also, parents are promised access to their children and that they can come home at any time.
Mamma H with her eldest daughter
Meet Mama H (pictured above with her eldest daughter). This Ugandan mother reached out to Kugatta to help her find her son who was adopted to America. While in most cases when we search for children and find the adoptive families they are very open and receptive to the injustices that have incurred, some aren’t. In fact, in some instances they want nothing to do with any of it. As overwhelming and tragic as that is, Kugatta honours their decision, even when we don’t agree. When this happens we continue to work with and empower the vulnerable family member who was left behind. We provide a platform for their experiences to be heard and shared so we can all learn and grow from their experience and hopefully prevent things like this from ever happening again.
Here is an interview Gladys did with with Ugandan mother whom we will refer to as Mama H. She unknowingly signed away her parental rights. She is sharing her experience for two reasons: to ensure others will learn from her experience and loss; so hopefully her son will one day see and hear her story and know he was loved and searched for, from the moment he left her side.