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«Le roman de Renan» : un doc sensible et sensé sur l’adoption homoparentale

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«Le roman de Renan» : un doc sensible et sensé sur l’adoption homoparentale

Dans le documentaire diffusé ce mardi soir sur France 2 Anne Gintzburger retrace le parcours d’un couple d’hommes et d’un enfant de 10 ans qui, malgré les épreuves, réussissent à s’adopter mutuellement.

Image extraite du documentaire le Roman de Renan d'Anne Gintzburger. (Chasseur d'étoiles)

par Aurore Savarit-Lebrère

"Adoption has a hidden face, it brings complicated situations"

"It is an overwhelming phenomenon to contemplate the same beautiful full moon here, in Addis Ababa, as in Madrid or anywhere in the world!" Alfredo thought upon arriving in the Ethiopian capital and following the established process to adopt a child (a girl , in this case) in the immense African country. Alfredo had to undertake the journey in Paris before, since Ethiopia did not have an embassy in Madrid. He narrates that his first experience with Ethiopian officials was not very spirited: "Correct for the resolution of his efforts, but cold."

Alfredo and his wife, Stella, decided to spend those Christmases of 2005 in their house in the coastal town of Vera with friends, and there they received the news that they had a life to adopt. It is then when Alfredo decides to start writing "The Moon of Addis Abeba" (Letrame Editorial; Almería, 2020) and in which he recounts over almost 400 pages the real journey of an adoption by a Spanish marriage of a happy Ethiopian girl four-year-old, who in adolescence emanates from within a volcanic fury in search of his own identity.

According to LA RAZÓN, “it is not until February 2006 that Asha's face appears before us. It was only a first meeting, because the girl would remain in a House of Transition, where she would learn Spanish and would be prepared for the home that awaited her with open arms. The parents set out for Addis Ababa to pick up their daughter Asha after the court ruling. Memories, as Alfredo confesses, of a very poor country, of some officials at the airport used to "keep the change", of a merciless orphanage.

The first days in Spain, which coincided with the Easter holidays, were a real test of effort for the parents, with a girl who was looking for the breast of her adoptive mother, suffered nocturnal enuresis and attacks of rage . Alfredo, the biological father of a young woman who had become independent from a first marriage, was often struck by serious doubts as to whether he would know how to cope with the new situation of a loving and challenging girl in equal measure.

He says that his little girl was very intelligent, she quickly learned correct Spanish, but she did not stop evoking memories of her biological family that she must have carried deep inside. "For her it must have been a great detachment, a painful uprooting of its deepest roots , of which at that time we were not aware," he admits.

Amanda: 'I'm not the person on my adoption papers'

Amanda Janssen's adoption papers contain a name and date of birth that are not hers. She still doesn't know who she is. She hopes one day to find her real mother through DNA. “If someone asks how old I am, I can't answer that question with certainty. And I don't know my real name either. Nor who my biological parents are.”

“I am not the person described in my adoption papers. All I know is that I am from Sri Lanka. It is almost impossible to explain to others what it means to me that I have lost my identity. It's in a part of my brain where there are no words at all. It has a big effect on me. Sometimes I don't even know who I am anymore. And I'm harder on myself than other people. Like I think: if they did this to me, then I should be able to handle anything.”

'Finally recognition'

“Recently it was in the news that intercountry adoption will be stopped for the time being, due to abuses in the past. People now want to make sure that things don't still go wrong. That in itself is good news, I no longer feel like a voice crying in the desert. I have presented so many facts with other adoptees before, and nothing was ever done about it. Now recognition has finally come.”

“But otherwise we are still at the same point where we were already. No concrete help has come for me and other people this has happened to. What I need is a foundation that's right, an adoption file that's right. In other words: identity recovery. A part of me now remains hidden in the mist. The way I put together, my character, the nature of the beast. It's always a bit of a gamble; from whom do I now have which traits? That applies to every adoptee, but if your papers are correct, then you have the choice to start looking.”

The Gist: Survivors refuse to stay on Mute

The Mother & Baby Homes Commission of Inquiry returned to the public's attention as one of the Commissioners decided to speak about it for the first time at an invitation-only Oxford University zoom

The Minister for Children, Equality, Disability, Integration and Youth Roderic O’Gorman started off looking like he might have a quiet fortnight. By the end of the first week, he found himself on air arguing that he might have to withhold redress from Mother & Baby Home survivors if they insisted on their experiences being officially recognised.

By the end of the second week, his Government was saying it planned to appoint another expert to do a new report into those testimonies to address the Commission report’s failures.

Apart from the continuing marvel of a Minister apparently eager to continue to put the torch to his own credibility in order to act as a spokesman for his Department’s unsustainable policy positions, the past two weeks have provided a kaleidoscope of views into how power in Ireland works now.

This is the Gist.

Mother-and-baby home redress proposals due soon

A report containing proposals for a redress scheme for the survivors of mother-and-baby homes is set to be completed next week.

The Interdepartmental Group report is expected to submit its findings to Minister for Children Roderic O'Gorman in the coming days.

It is understood that the redress scheme could provide payments to survivors based on the length of time they spent in the homes.

Survivors are also likely to receive what has been described as an "enhanced medical card".

Once the Interdepartmental Group has issued its report to Minister O'Gorman, the matter would then go to Cabinet in July when the minister would bring a memo to Government outlining the scheme in full.

For adoption, the centrality of due process

The proper procedure entails that these children enter the legal adoption pool, which is critical not only for their well-being but also for the legal protection of the family unit formed through adoption

The second wave of the Covid-19 pandemic in India has created unprecedented chaos, upended health systems, and claimed an inordinate number of lives. The trajectory of new infections may be ebbing, but it has taken a severe toll on the most vulnerable cohort — children.

All children have the right to protection, to survive, to belong, be heard and receive care in a safe and healthy environment. Their parents are their first line of protection. Today, thousands of children have been orphaned with the virus claiming the lives of their parents. Many of them have no family and, therefore, no protection.

According to figures given out by the National Commission for Protection of Child Rights, 3,621 children were orphaned and 274 abandoned between April 1, 2021 to June 5, 2021. Many among them may not have close relatives or their extended families may be unwilling or incapable of taking them in.

Almost anyone who has a smartphone has received WhatsApp messages, describing horror stories of young children orphaned by Covid-19, seeking their “adoption”. Such messages, howsoever well-intentioned, are both irresponsible and illegal. These orphaned children are more susceptible than ever and vulnerable to traffickers or criminals, thanks to people trying to help without following due process.

They now know for sure: they are full sisters and are committed to their native Nepal

WIERDEN/RIJSSEN - Two sisters from Nepal are adopted at a young age by different Dutch families. What is the chance that they will live close to each other in Twente? Sanumaya Lensen (43) and Shanti Tuinstra (44) found each other in Rijssen.

Sanumaya and Shanti were both adopted in 1979 and 1980, but not by the same Dutch parents. It has only been a few years since they officially confirmed that they are biological sisters, after they had a DNA test. "But we already felt it. We were both told that we had a sister in the Netherlands."

Dads knew each other

Sanumaya came to her adoptive parents in Rijssen in December 1979 as a toddler of 1.5 years, Shanti a few months later at the age of 3 in Enschede. “Our fathers knew each other,” says Shanti. “My father worked in Rijssen, and we later moved there too. Every day I cycled past Sanumaya's house on my way to my school in Nijverdal. One day, when it was her birthday, I brought a present.”

Our bond has become much closer since we have proof that we are really sisters, it's magical

Korean adoptee films pain of mother-child separations

SEOUL, South Korea (AP) — Bringing her camera to a home for unwed mothers on South Korea’s Jeju island, Sun Hee Engelstoft anticipated an empowering story about young women keeping their babies.

Instead, she ended up with a raw and unsettling documentary about how a deeply conservative sexual culture, loose birth registration laws and a largely privatized adoption system continue to pressure and shame single mothers into relinquishing their children for adoption.

The shock and grief of mother-child separations and intense fear of social stigma captured in “Forget Me Not” offer insight into what’s preventing thousands of Korean adoptees from reconnecting with their silenced birth mothers, decades after they were flown to the West.

Adoptees, including Engelstoft, have also blamed these disconnections on limited access to records, falsified documents that hide their true origins and a lack of accountability shown by adoption agencies and South Korea’s government.

“Every time I started following a woman (at the home), they strongly told me that they wanted to keep their child, and that’s just not what happened,” Engelstoft said in a recent interview with The Associated Press. “I was completely horrified at the result.”

Child trafficking case detected in H.D. Kote

A case of child trafficking has been reported from H.D. Kote taluk, Mysuru, in which a seven-month-old baby was allegedly purchased from its parents.

The parents of the child belong to the nomadic Hakki Pikki community who are settled in Bengaluru. The child was sold to a couple in H.D. Kote, whom they got to know during an online sale of herbal and traditional medicines.

E. Dhananjaya of the Child Welfare Committee in Mysuru said the incident came to light when the parents of the child approached the police in H.D. Kote seeking custody of the baby. However, the couple refused to give custody on the grounds that they had “purchased” the baby for ?1.5 lakh.

The issue came to the notice of CWC in Mysuru who informed the police that it was a clear case of child trafficking and an FIR should be registered. The CWC has taken custody of the child, who has been transferred to an adoption centre in Mandya district.

Mr. Dhananjaya said the biological parents who sold the child and the couple who “purchased” it are guilty under the law and legal action will be initiated against them. H.D. Kote police has registered a case and are investigating.

Ethical dilemmas in parliamentary debate on adoption

On 9 June, a debate on adoption was held in the House of Representatives with outgoing Minister of Legal Protection Dekker. During this debate, the report of the Joustra Committee, the temporary ban on intercountry adoption and the minister's exploration into an alternative public law system and stronger international supervision were discussed.

Room divided over adoption stop

The House appreciates that the Joustra report has been published and believes that Minister Dekker's apologies on behalf of the Dutch government are appropriate, because the conclusions are painful and confrontational. Opinions are divided about the temporary shutdown.

Intercountry adoption subject to conditions

Lisa van Ginneken (D'66) believes that intercountry adoption under the right guarantees can be a solution to help a child and wants to reopen the procedure for consent in principle. Ulysse Ellian (VVD) states that intercountry adoption could come from a select group of countries. Barbara Kathmann (PvdA) wants to lift the adoption freeze and offer customization. She calls for a reconsideration of the financial support for searches of adoptees. Roelof Bisschop (SGP) asks for an exception for the adoption of brothers or sisters of a child that has already been adopted. Can these parents still get a permission in principle?