I was 38 when I adopted my daughter Richa in 1997. Richa’s birth mother was 18 when she gave her up in 1996. I have often thought about the loss this woman (child, really) must have experienced, and have felt so much compassion for her situation and gratitude for her choice.

Richa has always talked about her birth parents, primarily her mother. Sometimes it was to say she wanted to write them letters or set up an apartment in India so they could live there and she could visit them. At other times, she cried bitterly that they didn’t want her. She wrote in a school diary in 4th grade that she wanted to run away and find them. My daughter’s pain was heartbreaking for me. I would try to acknowledge her pain, let her cry and then distract her, and ensure that I never made it about us. In fact, she is totally bonded with everyone in the family, so I never felt her need to know her birth parents meant she didn’t view us as her parents.

We survived some tumultuous teenage years. We had a letter from her birth mother (let’s call her K) and a photo of her holding Richa as a baby (back view, so face is not visible). We gave these to Richa when she was 16. When she was 19, she wanted to try to find K. I wrote to her orphanage several times over a period of 3 months, without hearing anything. Finally, I just told them that the two of us were going to be there January 8, 2016, and hoped they had some information for us.

On January 7th, I got an email from them saying to come in the next day to talk about meeting Richa’s birth mother. We went in, and the director called up K in front of us, and set up a meeting for the next day! Apparently a social worker had gone to a 19-year old address they had where her mother and sister still lived, and the sister agreed to put the social worker in touch with K. K’s situation was that she had got married without telling her husband about the baby she had conceived out of wedlock and given up for adoption.Thus if her husband found out about her meeting, it would have been dangerous for her. Nevertheless, she agreed to travel to a different location and meet us.

I don’t think I have ever felt more anxious or stressed as I was in those two days. Even more than the day we went to meet Richa for the first time! My stress was completely about making sure things didn’t blow up for Richa, leaving her more scarred than helped by the experience. I worried that K would agree to come and then back out, or come and demand money. I worried that Richa had woven these fantasies about her birth mother, and that the reality of a rural, Maharashtrian woman would be completely alien to her.

Eight-year-old Harsha (name changed) was recently adopted by a couple in Hyderabad from an adoption agency in Bengaluru. The prospective parents were eager to take the child home and

hence he had to be pulled out of school mid-year. Like any other child of his age, Harsha was active

and mischievous. While the father, a school teacher, found this behaviour normal for a child of that

age, the mother found it diicult to cope. She grew exasperated with him. Regretting the adoption,

she approached the agency to take the child back, even as the agency members tried to reason

‘The online form for adoption has only two options, male and female’

Though Kerala came up with a transgender policy in 2015, many socio-legal problems of sexual minorities are yet to be addressed, according to LGBTQ activists.

“Marriage and adoption of children are still a huge issue for sexual minorities,” says Vijayaraja Mallika, transwoman poet and winner of the Vayalar Ramavarma Poetry Award 2019, who got married recently. To get married, transgenders have to cross many hurdles. Even if they are transman or transwoman, they have to procure the identity cards of ‘cismale’ and ‘cisfemale’ to get married. Otherwise they can live together, but the relationship will not be legal, she noted.

“The online form for adoption does not even have a third option, other than male and female. Leave alone the huge financial burden for such legal adoptions, the rules do not allow sexual minorities to legally adopt children,” Ms. Shyam noted.

Illegal adoptions

After 37 years - now Valeria will meet her biological family

Valeria Bergmontt was taken from her mother against her will when she was nine months old and adopted to Sweden. Now she will meet her biological family in Chile.

- This is much bigger than I thought it would be, she says.

Many of the children who were adopted from Chile to Sweden during the 1970s and 1980s may have been taken from their parents without their consent, we have previously stated here in Svt Nyheter Väst. One of them is Valeria, who currently lives in Gothenburg. She was nine months old when she was adopted. Today she is 38. She is one of many children suspected of being taken from her biological family in Chile against the family's will.

- Of course, my adoptive parents had no idea that it had happened or that it could be so. She had none, she says.

Des enfants adoptés en Belgique ont-ils été raflés au Guatemala ?

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" D’où je viens ? Qui je suis ? Qui est ma mère biologique ? Tout cela se trouve dans le dossier mais… il est faux "

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BENGALURU: Wracked with guilt over having given away her 53-day-old boy through illegal adoption after finding it difficult to

raise him, a 35-year-old assistant professor knocked on the doors of police, pleading that she be reunited with her child.

Police managed to rescue the infant from a Mysuru couple on Thursday and handed him over to the Child Welfare Committee

(CWC) in Bengaluru. The birth parents and the man who led them to the Mysuru couple were charged with selling the baby.

Banashankari residents Raksha (name changed) and Suresh (name changed), engineer with a private company, were blessed

This financial support will cover reimbursement of adoption expenses such as CARA registration, child placement, foster care and establishment of legal guardianship.

PayPal India has announced a new Adoption Assistance Program where it will be offering financial support of up to Rs 1 lakh per adoption for adoptive parents. This financial support will cover reimbursement of adoption expenses such as CARA registration, child placement, foster care and establishment of legal guardianship.

Paypal said in a statement that the announcement is a part of the company’s continual effort to enhance the parental support benefits for employees.

PayPal offers paid adoption leave of 16 weeks for female employees and paternity leave of 2 weeks. “This leave must be used in one block and cannot be carried forward or accumulated. Any unused adoption leave will lapse,” it said.

'' At PayPal, fostering an open, diverse and innovation-driven culture is essential for our employees to be at their creative best. As part of this effort, we have enhanced our parental support benefits for adoptive parents so they have constant support throughout the process and can truly embrace their journey of parenthood,” said Jayanthi Vaidyanathan, ?Senior Director, Human Resources, PayPal.”

The Bombay High Court in a signicant ruling, allowed an adoption petition led by

one Mathew Inacio Abreo, a 66-year-old man who sought adoption of Malaica Abreo, a

22-year-old girl who was raised by Mathew and his wife Dora.

Justice GS Kulkarni declared the petitioner as the adoptive parent of Malaica and

granted him liberty to apply before Municipal Authorities to issue a Birth Certicate of

Centrale wachtlijst voor Taiwan opgeheven

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Beste (aspirant) adoptieouders,

Sinds kort is de centrale wachtlijst voor Taiwan opgeheven.

Ouders die zich aanmelden voor adoptie vanuit Taiwan kunnen na de intake bij het Special Needs team direct door naar een landencontactpersoon(LCP-er)

Do we have a Prime Minister who will not comply with the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child and the ECHR?

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The speech was viewed with excitement, as the Social Democracy has previously been planning to place 50,000 children and young people against the approximately 14,400 children and young people placed today. Shortly before the Prime Minister's speech, she posted an update on Facebook that she wanted to talk about the children.

Unfortunately, there was a speech that could be remembered for the Prime Minister of Denmark not wanting to comply with both the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child and the European Convention on Human Rights, Article 8, that children should not be separated from their families.

In her speech, she pointed out that more children need to be placed very early, as they want to be better placed to break their patterns.